Thursday, February 23, 2017

The Cycle: Are you looking for a Companion or a Relationship?



We've all been down that road, found someone we were attracted too, exchanged numbers, gone on a couple of dates and before you know it you find yourself becoming intimate. For most people finding the right person is a challenge and often we end up repeating the same mistakes and trapped in the same cycle of dating. I speak from experience when I say "dating is hard" but it doesn't have to be, you just have to know your purpose for dating someone and what you want to gain from it. Are you looking for a companion or a relationship?

Too often people end up in situations with someone they really aren't sure about. At the beginning it was fun and exciting but after a few months you start loosing interest, you wonder if you really care about the person or if it's just convenient to have them around. That's why it's so important to take the time to get to know someone. Find out what they're really about, do they want the same things in life as you? Are they ready to take the next step? If you can't connect with someone mentally, the physical won't be enough to keep you together. Put in the effort to learn everything you need to know about the person your dating and don't be afraid to open up. If your looking for a serious relationship and they tell you on the first date that they're not looking for something serious, WELP that's your cue to keep it moving. Don't settle because your lonely and think you can change someone's mind it'll only lead to heartache and a bunch of time wasted.

The most important thing you can do is be honest, be honest with the person your connecting with but most importantly be honest with yourself. Use wisdom and take your time, there's no time limit when getting to know someone and your gut will tell you if it's right or if you should move on.